ALEXANDRA KING JOURNALIST, CNN
What was your favourite pregnancy look? What made you feel the most beautiful?
I became obsessed with fun accessories when pregnant. I wore lots of big barrettes and ankle socks and loafers. Little fun touches of joy and personality at either end of my body that were my way of saying, I’m still here! Also, I wish someone had told me that for many women, especially with first babies, you don’t actually look pregnant, with that lovely big moon of a bump, until you’re super far along. I didn’t have a bump until about 7 months in, and for most of my pregnancy I just looked like I’d put on a bit of weight on my waist and tummy. There definitely were occasions when it was tough to not be frustrated by how swollen and unattractive I felt! But I did feel beautiful until the end, when I had a fab time raiding my husband’s closet and stealing his button downs (worn with leggings, and the aforementioned barrettes and loafers). Until then, I bought some workhorse regular clothes and bras in two sizes up.
Do you have 1 hot tip for pregnancy dressing?
Choose the clothes you need to protect your body and show yourself off in equal measure, as needed, and at your own pace. I, like so many mamas, experienced baby loss on my way to a “viable” pregnancy, and it therefore took me a long time to find joy, rather than terror, in the experience of being pregnant. I was convinced for most of my pregnancy that at any point it could all be over, and so, at first, I was drawn to wearing soft, warm, oversized things because I think I craved protection. The fact that it took a long time for me to get an obvious “bump,” and the many well-meaning people who loved to comment on my lack of one (eye roll…I think they thought they were giving me a compliment) was a source of terror for me. The clothing choices I made at the end, when I could finally believe that my little one was really and truly coming, really reflected the joy and release I felt in that moment.
I think empire waists are on the whole terrible, especially if your boobs get massive, much better to have something that hugs or skims your torso. In addition my general body temperature was so much hotter when preggers that I really craved soft light materials that didn’t make me sweat. Farewell, silk shirts! Also for postpartum I have a pet peeve about horrid “nursing tops” with those weird shelf boob flaps. Practical, I guess? But such an odd silhouette. Just pull your shirt down/up, dude, it’s fine… (or wear a button down, always chic!).
Is there a piece from the Onloan wardrobe you’d love to wear when/if pregnant?
This Soeur Lucrece Floral Shirt for the awkward “Is that a sandwich or a baby?’ phase, worn with coral lipstick and an exciting jean.
This Lily & Lionel Red and Pink Floral Midi Dress for third trimester bumping real-ness